We Can Rebuild Her
Better than she was before… Better, Stronger, Happier. A Breast Cancer Journal

Rebuilding Me

Almost daily, I’m encouraged to “keep fighting!” and, while I sincerely appreciate the emboldening intention, I’m always a bit perplexed.

I’m not fighting. In fact, I’ve never fought less.

During my 12 precarious years at Nortel, I was fighting. During my various vicious family torments, I was fighting. During my struggles with sundry insecure, thoughtless or just plain nasty humans, I was fighting.

But I’m not fighting now.

I’m healing. I’m nestling. I’m carefully rebuilding my body, my mind, my life; pulling things out, examining them, deciding what goes back in, and where.

The scalpel, chemo and gamma-rays do my fighting while I’m absolutely busy cultivating wellness and peace.

I am grateful to the citizens and politicians who have fought for free health care, to the scientists who continue to fight for cures, to the doctors, nurses and technicians who fight fatigue to care, to the taxpayers who fight daily to earn their OHIP contributions and to the many cancer patients before me who have fought for their lives as treatments continue to be tested, tweaked and tuned.

And I’m grateful for the opportunity to build a happier, healthier me.

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Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

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Andrea Posted by Andrea January 21, 2010

January 21, 2010 at 7:03 am.

10 comments

  • http://www.the3day.org/goto/Jenny.Sinanan2010 Jenny Sinanan

    Good day Andrea,

    Thank you for putting your heart into the conversation and shedding light on the language of healing. I too, have long been perplexed by the word choice of “fighting the good fight” when referring to healing of any kind. Though I believe people are generally well-intentioned, being encouraged to keep fighting sounds counter-productive to me. Might we try “seek listening” or “explore stillness”. My personal stance is to simple stand by the person doing the healing, and in so doing, offer the gift of bearing witness. If I can come to that place with the intention of supporting, then whatever comes forward is ours to share, together.

    To you, Andrea; to your dance, your song, your rant and raves, your blessed life.

    Jenny

  • Steve

    Well said, Champ! (tee hee).

  • tracybialecki

    Great picture of you and Pat Andrea! Love your website, what a great idea to keep people updated on your progress. I am keeping you in my prayers! I'm not sure if you got my e-mail I sent your earlier? I sent it though this site where it said contact us. My computer skills are pretty limited so not sure if I did it right. I'm so glad you and Kelly have gotten in touch again….you were the best of friends and will be again I'm sure! You have been through so much and are such a strong person. I have subscribed to this so I will get updates through my e-mail.Thanks so much for doing this, Love your cousin Tracy. xoxo

  • http://www.wecanrebuildher.com Andrea

    Thank you, Jenny.

  • http://www.WeCanRebuildHer.com Andrea Ross

    Hi Tracy,

    Thanks so much for following our story and for your email and comment. I'm hoping my response didn't go to your spam folder.

    Oshawa will be our first destination following my successful treatment so I'm hoping to we get to catch up with you and your whole family then too.

    Funny to think our two families spent so much time together when we were little then completely lost touch. I'm grateful that this journey is reconnecting us.

    Be well and be happy,
    Love,
    Andrea

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sriram-Venkataraman/642616153 Sriram Venkataraman

    Hi Andrea, what a great perspective !! My first instinct has to been to think of handling any disease as a “fight” only. Now I realize that it is a journey towards “wellness and peace”. Opens my eyes about how I should talk to people going through their therapies.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sriram-Venkataraman/642616153 Sriram Venkataraman

    Hi Andrea, what a great perspective !! My first instinct has to been to think of handling any disease as a “fight” only. Now I realize that it is a journey towards “wellness and peace”. Opens my eyes about how I should talk to people going through their therapies.

  • http://www.WeCanRebuildHer.com Andrea Ross

    Thank you, Sriram. Hoping you won't have many opportunities to do so, and that your family and friends remain well.

    Love,
    Andrea
    xo

  • http://www.WeCanRebuildHer.com Andrea Ross

    Thank you, Sriram. Hoping you won’t have many opportunities to do so, and that your family and friends remain well.nnLove,nAndreanxo

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