We Can Rebuild Her
Better than she was before… Better, Stronger, Happier. A Breast Cancer Journal

A Fresh Chapter

Happy New Year!

We’ve begun a fresh chapter: The Something Of Our Ways.

Hope to see you there…

 



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea January 9, 2012

January 9, 2012 at 3:48 pm.

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Feel Free

When I was diagnosed in October 2009, I was vaguely aware of one woman who had been through the experience before me.

I felt isolated. Targeted. Stupid.
Alone.

Sadly, I don’t feel alone now.

There are too many of us. And the numbers keep growing.

Most of our moms didn’t walk this path.

I fervently hope that our daughters don’t have to.

This weekend, we’re doing the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation’s I'm running for the cure, October 2, 2011. You are invited to join me in this effort to raise money for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation by sponsoring me. Just click here.Run For The Cure.

Feel free to help by sponsoring Mark, Lucy, Bayla or me.

Thank you.

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Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea September 26, 2011

September 26, 2011 at 10:04 am.

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The Time of My Life

A year ago yesterday, was my first day back to work.

But yesterday, wasn’t.
Lucky, lucky me.

Before cancer, I led a charmed life. And I knew it.

I was happy. I was healthy. With two delicious daughters. And a vibrant relationship with a hunky, funky, fun-loving man.

We had good jobs. A cozy home. Consuming creative, hobbies. Tonnes of passion. And shared our time with interesting, intelligent, authentic, fun-loving friends.

I had stress. And I did torture myself. But I really did marvel at my miraculous life. And wondered how I’d stumbled into it.

Who’d have guessed it would get even better.

I love my life.

Thank you, Mark.

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Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea September 16, 2011

September 16, 2011 at 8:21 am.

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Am I Touching Something?

“You can keep them bottled up, but they will come out, Michael. Sometimes in the most unexpected… Hey, where the @!*# are my hard-boiled eggs?!

– Tobias Fünke. Good Grief! Arrested Development 2004.

My life is brimming with beautiful people. Wise, interesting, creative, curious, passionate, compassionate, generous, articulate, level-headed, fun-loving people.

I’m lucky.

So I’m always shocked at the hair-trigger hostility I stumble into. Seemingly reasonable people who spray me with hatred over a sideways glance.

It confuses me.

Are they stretched to the breaking point struggling to maintain some decent facade? Are they barely bottling up frustration, dissatisfaction, loneliness, insecurity, envy and rage? And why bother spewing venom at inconsequential me?

In the online world, it’s especially easy to lay out and examine entire interactions. And I’ve often done just that. Weighing a scant response from me against the lengthy and personal ferocity that results.

And my confusion remains.

But I’m learning to scrounge up some compassion for their barely bound pain. Beam some healing, happy vibes.

And move on.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea August 15, 2011

August 15, 2011 at 11:12 am.

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Have We Done Hair Pink Glasses On?



There’s no time like the present.

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Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea May 31, 2011

May 31, 2011 at 3:55 pm.

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Up here, Michael.


In October 2009, I was desperate to have both breasts removed.

Thanks to my insistent surgeon, I didn’t.

They’re small. They’re lopsided.
There are scars on both.

But they’re here. And so am I.

Lucky me.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea May 20, 2011

May 20, 2011 at 3:18 pm.

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Ooooh! Look at all these Parts!

When Mark lost his job last month, a friend grinned,
“When one door closes, another opens…
Sometimes, 17 others open.”

And it’s been true.
Possibilities have been popping up ever since.

Possible new paths for Mark.
And, surprisingly, hints of possible new paths for me.

Just hints, at this point. Vague invitations that may mean crossroads ahead.

But, several of them.

Open doors (even hints of open doors) are deliciously scary.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea March 11, 2011

March 11, 2011 at 8:22 am.

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Medicinal Deceit

Three weeks ago today, Mark lost his job.

It was no laughing matter.
But, thanks to a whack of relevant AD quotes, we laughed a lot that day.

Often, it’s not what happens so much as how we frame it.

This weekend, I did a hard-core search for a healthy way to look at braggarts, bullies and poseurs.

Thanks to mulling, sharing and listening to you, I think I struck gold:

Medicinal Deceit.
Medicinal Bragging.
Medicinal Superiority.
Medicinal Bullying…

I laugh just thinking these terms.

Bring it on.

(And, thanks!)



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 21, 2011

February 21, 2011 at 4:58 pm.

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We’re just not that starved for attention.

Life is short. And I’m the hard-earned new me.

So, why must I continue to let braggarts, bullies and poseurs get under my skin?

Really. I need to know why.

So I can stop.

Enough, already.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 19, 2011

February 19, 2011 at 5:44 pm.

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It never hurts to double-check.

Back in December, I got pretty freaked out about a line of lumps along my right arm.

I fretted. I frenzied.

And celebrated big when I got the good news.

Two weeks ago, I had the long-awaited ultrasound and left to the words “I wouldn’t worry if I were you”.

And I didn’t.

Yesterday my oncologist gave me a cheery call. She’s ordered another look at a reactive lymph node.

Lucky me. More practice at trusting my body. More practice at not worrying.

Pretty soon, I’ll be a pro.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 17, 2011

February 17, 2011 at 8:15 am.

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It’s just something the body does when you shake it.

Hooping, it turns out, is perfect post-breast-cancer-treatment therapy. Almost.

It challenges my co-ordination, balance and spatial awareness.
It entirely occupies my mind.

Its frantic, erratic arm movements sneak my damaged limb into places I thought I’d left behind.

It allows me to flail and fail without drawing the attention of the likewise intensely occupied others.

And gives me ample opportunity to tame my uber frustration reflex.

It’s brand new, so there’s no kicking myself for lost progress.
It’s great exercise.
It’s fun.

And it’s my first class with Lucy in 10 years.

But last night I discovered the Almost.
Chemo’d chicks don’t spin.
Or at least they shouldn’t.
I discovered.

It’s easy to forget how disgusting chemo was.
Last night’s hoop-induced nausea was a vivid reminder.
Of how lucky I am to be healthy.
And happy.
And chemo-free.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 15, 2011

February 15, 2011 at 11:08 pm.

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A Delicious Whodunnit

Mr. Social Media hit the national TV screens again tonight.

What that means for your weekend at 46:21.

p.s. You can watch Mark’s Peace, Order and Googleable Government video, here.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 8, 2011

February 8, 2011 at 10:12 pm.

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The Something of My Ways… Wisdom?

I took a timeout from teleworking today to enjoy a walk with Phaedra.

As my ever-burgeoning buttocks bounced happily behind me, I wondered what tweaks to my daily habits might reverse that jiggling trend.

A young man caught up to me on the all-but-deserted pathway, “You’re going to think this is very forward of me, but I’m a personal trainer and…” bla, bla, bla.

The lengthy exchange was pleasant and professional and I returned to my walk feeling triumphant at having successfully deflected all compliments and steered clear of a pitch.

It was only as my mind was drawn back to my jiggling behind that I realized what I’d done.

How often do I nip opportunity in the bud?
Why do I put pride ahead of progress?
And, what’s the scoop on this Marvin guy? I wish I’d got his last name.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 7, 2011

February 7, 2011 at 4:12 pm.

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I have dreams, Lindsay. Dreams…

Well, then, Tobias… follow those dreams. Make those dreams happen.

– Tobias Funke, Visiting Ours

Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.

The Princess Diaries?



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Andrea Posted by Andrea February 5, 2011

February 5, 2011 at 7:24 am.

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Here Comes the 10:15 Conniption, Right on Time

In the first few years after it, Jay and I laughed that our 7650 kilometre coast-to-coast cycling slog had eliminated all chances of future adventure.

Once-thrilling ski and bike tours, tough as they were, left us unfulfilled.

Our bang bar was just too high.

Turns out cancer raised a bang bar of its own.

Mark lost his job Monday.
It blindsided us both.

But we’re all alive and healthy.

We’re concerned, curious and quite run down.

But this challenge, tough as it is, is well below the bar.



Andrea Ross was diagnosed with breast cancer October 6, 2009 and intends to survive and thrive. You can read more from Andrea here.

Andrea Posted by Andrea February 4, 2011

February 4, 2011 at 7:22 am.

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